I seriously hope I heard what I think I heard wrong earlier. With all this flak over the NY govenor admitting he had sex with a prostitute, infidelity is back in the spotlight, and Dr. Laura is blaming the wives?
What I heard was, women need to take responsibility for providing a loving atmosphere for their spouses, so they don't have any reason to stray.
Okay...I've been on both sides of this argument, and frankly, I'm inclined to say it doesn't matter if we emulate June Cleaver, Roseanne, or even any female lead; if the guy is going to cheat, he'll find a way. It matters not if we are loving, kind, or a regular bitch! If our men are strong, self-confident men who know themselves and what they want out of life, or even have a shred of self-respect and honor, they will stay faithful.
But if the man has a weakness for women, or feel they are lacking somehow, they'll look elsewhere.
And it's not just the men! I've known women who feel there is 'someone better out there', or maybe her hubby isn't fulfilling her needs. If there is no communication, she'll stray. And maybe they both want to be caught...in that case, it's a cry for help! A wake-up call to the spouse who realizes s/he's taking the other for granted?
But don't you dare tell me it's my responsibility to keep him happy!
What happened to committment? Yeah, I heard someone say that 'standing by your man' is simply the price these public women pay to be in the spotlight. And yes, I also heard someone say that the wife might as well be wearing a burka. 'Find your backbone...let him stand up there alone...'
I'm undecided on these points. It all depends on their definition of committment and self-respect. If their men are truly repentant and want to change their behavior, I'm all for the second chance. Third, nah.
Go ahead; tell me I'm wrong. I really hope I misunderstood Dr. Laura!