Warning: The following content may cause eyebrows to raise, heart palpitations, or fainting spells. On the other hand, if you're here, you're over the age of eighteen, so you've been warned:)
There are certain words and phrases I certainly don't associate with romance, yet when writing sex scenes, they invariably creep in to the vocabulary. Sometimes my male characters have potty mouths, and yes, sometimes the women will get carried away.
-'Box'. Last time I checked, it was not in the shape of a square.
-'Cunt'. This brings to mind Penthouse or Playboy prose. I dislike it intensely; however, I'll use it maybe once in a story, and only because I need another word.
-'Pussy'. Same reason as above.
-'Twat'. Who the hell thought this one up? See above.
-"Give it to me baby..." This implies rough sex; not love-play.
-"I can't wait to do you..." Does this guy think that's a turn on? Not me!
-"He slid into her dripping entrance..." or 'Her pussy wept with moisture..." I'd hate to fall asleep in his arms afterward; all that wetness? Euuuwww...who wants to immediately change the sheets? Who's even INCLINED to strip the bed when one is exhausted from their lover's antics?
-Am I the only one who thinks shower sex is impossible? I don't mean foreplay; I mean the actual ACT. I've put it into some of my scenes, but as one who hates cold surfaces, or water pouring into my face...forget it.
I realize the genre I write certain descriptions are used; however, I'm not about to write something I can't stand to read. I wrote the first four books in order to get my foot in the door, and now I'm there, I'm staying on the tame side. What I thought was 'burning sex scenes' four years ago has become 'spicy' or 'steamy'. And I'm happy with that.
The most romantic thing anyone ever said to me was the morning after: "I want to make love to you again." I melted. Instantly.